In the midst of motherhood (or womanhood), we often find ourselves without real connection and conversation in our romantic relationships. Sure, a decade ago we talked and laughed together, but now we’re mostly living in survival mode, and it’s killing the connection we once had.
Over the years, I’ve discovered that there are some common things that keep us from the relationship we dream of. You ready?
1.Not loving ourselves fully
As women, we can often find ourselves thinking about the ways we’ve failed as a wife/partner/mom/friend/co-worker/you-name-it. And while we’re busy ruminating, we are killing our own confidence and self love, and that trickles down into our romantic relationships. If we want to feel like we are worthy of someone else’s love and affection, we should love ourselves wholly.
2. Being “too busy”
The busier we are, the more tasks on our to-do lists, the less time we have to spend QT with our significant others. And while this might be okay for a while, it’s not going to be long before we find ourselves feeling disconnected from our partner. Taking time to just be together, doing something you enjoy, is vital to a happy relationship. So take a few things off the calendar, and in those spots, pencil in your spouse.
We like to believe that our friends, our acquaintances, and strangers on the internet have better relationships than we do. And while that might be true sometimes…it’s often NOT. The more we focus on what we believe we are “missing” and what others “have,” the less satisfied we will feel about the good parts of our own relationship.
4. Not communicating in productive ways
Just because we know how to speak to each other doesn’t mean we’re communicating in ways that show we HEAR each other. Saying words is not the same thing as having quality conversations that lead to problem solving and deeper connections. So put the phones down, turn the TV off, and learn to have real conversations.
Okay…and now for the most exciting news I’ve had in a long time!!! My amazing husband and I have launched a 3 day COUPLES COMMUNICATION BOOTCAMP!!!!
If you and your partner ever struggle with communication in your relationship, I’m inviting you to check out what our program has to offer! We’re so, so pumped to help more couples figure out a better path forward in their relationship. If you’d like to learn more, please click HERE!